Sex & Relationships
5 benefits of living together before marriage
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Jaclyn Abergas
05.27.22

Should you live together before getting married or just wait?

That’s a question a lot of couples now ask. And you know what? This question wasn’t asked often decades ago.

Yes, there were couples already cohabitating but it was all kept hush-hush. But in present times, it’s already become a very common practice.

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In fact, reports say there are 8.5 million unmarried couples already living together in the US.

And a lot of the cohabitating couples are using this time as a testing ground for compatibility before marriage instead of learning after and facing divorce.

But these aren’t the only benefits living together before marriage can give.

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1. Your relationship will reach a more profound level

The two of you have now taken your relationship to a higher level. This signifies that you are both ready to take it one step forward. Plus your family and friends will also notice the step forward in your relationship.

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2. You can strengthen your relationship

You live together now. This means you’re together at the start of the day and the end of the day. Plus a majority of the hours during the day and probably the entire weekend. When you get into an agreement or disappointment, you can’t just avoid each other because you live together. Yes, you can escape for a few hours or days but, in the end, you’ll still go home to your partner.

And if you want to make the relationship work, you have to work through your arguments and differences. It may still be different but you need to accept them and make compromises if needed.

Plus living together will also help us notice and accept each other’s flaws. Once we do that, we can get past anything.

3. You’ve already adjusted to each other

By the time you decide to get married, you’ve already gone past the awkward adjustment stage. You can choose to focus on making your marriage and your relationship even better.

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4. You can reduce your expenses

Yes, you can also get a roommate to reduce your expenses. But when you live with your partner, you’re living with someone you can actually like and love. And you like being around them, too. It’s also a great way to find out whether you both know how to manage your finances and how you can both learn from each other.

5. It’s easier to move out than get a divorce

And if all else fails and you can’t make the relationship work, then all you have to do is pack your bags and move out. There’s no need for any lawyers and legal divorce proceedings.

And even though there are several benefits, another benefit to living together is to see firsthand your incompatibility.

You can have a difference in opinions, especially on finances.

This is crucial with any relationship, whether you choose to live together before or after marriage. If you can’t agree on financial responsibility, you will have a difficult time living together or married to each other. If you can sort out your finances together before you sign your commitment to each other, then that’s a good plan.

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You can be compatible but lack support from family and friends.

Or maybe you are compatible with each other but your family and friends do not approve of the relationship and highly protest living together. This may not be a deal-breaker for all couples but it is a strong point to consider. You need to decide if the relationship is strong enough over your other relationships.

Are you planning on living with your partner before you get married? We hope this article can help you make the right decision.

Or do you know someone who’s planning to do that? Share this article with them to help them decide, too.

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By Jaclyn Abergas
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Jaclyn Abergas is a contributor at SBLY Media.
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